Mel's OBITUARY

On Monday, April 25, 2011 I assigned a  writing Prompt : Write your own OBITUARY in 300 words (short) /800 words (long form) on the LeadStory fan page
If you ever wished to have the last say on your life this surely would be the way. It is a way to confront your own mortality - and in the process I suspect you will learn what is most important to you in this life.
I know I did.
When I started this exercise my first thought was to include all of my accomplishments, experiences and skills I learned along the way.
I thought, of course, that's what I would include if I was writing an obit for someone else. If I didn't know what was important to them I would write about the things they did.

The Obit writer fills in things the deceased did during his/her life. In between the time we are born and the time we die, they use nouns, verbs and adjectives to describe how we lived. They write about things we, the deceased, did. They write about people they believe are important to us and places we've been .

The sum of our existence is reduced to verbs, nouns and adjectives. Or can we sum up existence by sharing our philosophy and how we formed it? I can't say. Everyone is different. However since we are breathing this is our chance to write our own obituary. We do not have to follow the template. We can write anyway we see fit AS long as we're writing as if we know this obituary is our final say. What will you say about you? Here's what I said about me. Here's my wish for me.
"Her Journey Continues...

but for a while Mel Hopkins was blessed to spend some time on earth...During her sojourn she spent most of her time in the quest for LOVE. She believed LOVE was the highest emotion (energy-in-motion) a human could experience. She also believed LOVE possessed transformational powers that most never considered tapping into for its healing properties.

Her goal to enter Harvard University's Biophysics graduate program to study, research and publish the effects LOVE have on living organisms was realized. It set the stage for her doctoral dissertation which proved LOVE is an energy similar to Light and could travel the distances transforming all that it encountered.  Her thesis became the foundation for Organic Energy Healing that is used in the medical industry and the mental health field, today.  Currently its uses are being considered for other industries as it is a renewable resource that will benefit our resource based economy in numerous ways.  

While the uses of LOVE proved to be a monumental discovery, Mel's search had humble beginnings. She sought a fairytale ending of "Happily ever after". Since fairy tales ended with that sentence she didn't know what it entailed. Therefore she searched for her very own "prince charming" to find out what came next.

Mel surmised her "happily ever after" would look like a lot like what her parents, Em and Dot, experienced in the early years before her father's journey here was cut short by a killer. Mel's parents were best friends who knew each other since they were 10 years old. Their Love produced Mel and her younger brother, Lammie.. Growing up, Mel witnessed their love and saw "Happily Ever After" wasn't free from strife but consisted of a lot of laughter.

Mel's dad called her "Star" and he painted planets and constellations on the walls of her baby brother's room. This act of Love instilled in her the belief the universe was their playground and anything was possible.

When Mel was threatened and beaten up by a gang of children on a school bus, Mel saw through her parents' actions that when two formed a perfect union through love and united in marriage they were a force to be reckoned. When Mel's parents met up with the school bus and told the children on board if they ever harmed their daughter again they could and would end up on the wrong side of a shoe, it was paradigm shifting event. It was then Mel witnessed the power of a shared love, an energy that transforms and a legacy that is remembered long after the body is gone.

Mel also believed LOVE could create and when the energy is shared with another it could produce beautiful children such as Mel's daughters Houlimani, Lovebutton and BabyGirl.

Mel poured every ounce of Love she could conjure up into her daughters with the belief like rain to flowers they would blossom into vibrant, healthy and happy adults. When asked, Mel said being a mother to these wonderful women was her most important job; a labor of Love that bore wonderful fruit.

Mel's early career centered around communications, save her brief stint as a flight attendant in the early 2000s - followed by her breakthrough doctoral work in Biophysics but nothing compared to her job as a mother.

Now Mel's journey continues onto the next dimension where she will join THE ALL once again. She takes with her the Love she shared with her parents; her brother; her daughters; her Five heartbeats - TC, PB, KW, GDand her twin, DB; more than 100,000 sorority sisters she had the pleasure of serving with in this life, her Sisters of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc;  the love of countless people she met along the way.

AND her husband, the gorgeous, debonair, worldly, intellectual, smart, sexy, sensuous, passionate man she called her Prince Charming. Mel said she always felt protected spiritually, physically, emotionally and fiscally by him. She said there were no limits to what they could do together as well as apart...but most of all he wanted her by his side and he kept her safe inside his heart and she wanted the same for and from him.

With her loving husband in her life, she finally learned the meaning of ...

 

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  • 4/27/2011 7:38 PM Angie Jackson wrote:
    Wonderfully written and beautifully detailed! Bravo!
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    1. 4/27/2011 8:32 PM Mel wrote:
      Angie, thank you! Will you do one too?
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  • 4/28/2011 12:31 AM Angie Jackson wrote:
    Awe Mel! Perhaps when my project is completed. A wee bit stressed right now! Love the concept though!
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  • 4/29/2011 12:35 PM Tonda wrote:
    I loved this! The love-hood, childhood, adulthood, motherhood and career but especially the love part.

    I saw the assignment earlier this week passed it by, the thought feared me, not of death but what would I say about my life? Is it worth writing about? As always your timing is perfect because I've been struggling with the whole "What am I doing?" question for the last few days. I will give this assignment a go though, it's not too late to rewrite my story
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    1. 4/29/2011 2:40 PM Mel wrote:
      Thank you!  Tonda, I'm so glad you are going to  go for it!  You are wonderful writer with wonderful insight that I can only imagine what you will produce.  Writing this was cathartic for me - even when I read it I get bored.  I agree, however, we are breathing so it is not to late to rewrite our story!!  
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