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We've wandered in the wilderness with an almost complete amnesia since 'times immemorial'. The only memory we had was a false one; we believed our mother Eve (Nature) turned her back on us and nearly let us drown in the great flood. Eons later we're recovering from a Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Our memory is returning albeit slowly and our sojourn in this barren land is ending. We are now making our way back home to Eden the one true Matrix. Before we arrive, however, there are few things we need to discuss in an effort to finally shake free of mental shackles. Once our mind, body and spirit is free, and we remember we are a part of nature not outside of it, we can once again embrace our Divine Mother.
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EVE WAS FRAMED: It Takes Two...But What Is Your Role?

It Takes Two...But What Is Your Role?

Are you the lead or supporting character?

If you're a romantic comedy buff as I am, you will soon realize the perfect RomCom has two leads...not a lead actor and a supporting actor but two lead actors.

This is true in life. A perfect romance has two leads, not one who sacrifices his/her story line for the other's story.

I hadn't really thought much about it until my writer friend text me and inquired about one of my Facebook musings - my presidential suite moment.

Oh wait let me bring you up to speed.

Backstory: On The Good Wife season finale, Will desired one perfect moment with the newly separated Good Wife, Alicia - and the only room available at the inn (Read: Posh Hotel) was the Presidential Suite to the tune of $7800 per night. Will wasted no time plunking down his gold card to secure the suite if only for one hour with Alicia.

I once had a moment like that too. A man I'd just met for lunch asked me to join him for a weekend in Paris. All I had to say was "Yes" whatever I needed, he would purchase. I said "No" I was too afraid of what "I" might think of "me". (Let that marinate and then come back.)

At least, however, I understood Helen Gurley Brown's quote "Good girls go to heaven, bad girls go everywhere". Not only wasn't I going to heaven, I was staying home.

Back to the present...

Having received such an extravagant and decadent invitation, I was surprised when my friend asked if my presidential suite moment was one that he and I had experienced together. "No" I answered. Later he countered with a presidential suite moment of his own making - one where I would pick him up, take him to the airport give him a big kiss and he'd leave me curbside...

Needless to say I declined.

I told him, "thank you for material for my blog - but I will pass on the invitation."

In my mind, he might as well have said, "Here's your script. Read over your part. What do you think? No? OMG this is a great role. What do you mean, No? Well you'll never work in this town again. Now get out!"

He was surprised I said no. I had to remind him that if I passed up a trip to Paris, France, albeit with a stranger - why would I say yes to playing chauffeur and pretend-wifey.

I reminded him that I don't even drive myself to the airport and my 'office" is there. OK, so my "office" is any variety of Airbus or Boeing but that's beside the point.

The point is, I've written an exotic story for myself; a story I am living out in real time. I was in London, England on Saturday. I was in Vancouver, BC at the Fairmont days before dining in my room - with the option of having Guest Services to draw my bath and turn down my bed (yes, complete with chocolates). So why would I step out of my story to join him in his where I would now play a bit role?

Does that make sense?

Well, it didn't make sense to me either but it got me to thinking especially when he wrote to me:

"Ah yes, the blog, a world you can control. Stop being afraid to allow someone else to write the story sometimes."

"Start the car, Start the car" Put on the brakes. AFRAID? You're dam right I'm afraid to let someone write MY story! IT IS MY STORY!!!

Now mind you, I've let him write quite a few scenes in my story over the past few years. In fact, when we met it was me asking him to write a few parts in my life story to help me sell my book. This however was one scene I wasn't going to say yes to. I text him:

"I'm not afraid of someone writing THEIR story but if it's a world I choose not to live in - I don't have to. That is the gift of free will. Saying NO to Paris, Saying NO to driving to the airport are all choices I've made on someone else's story."

And then I had an epiphany, we aren't voting on a man or woman to love; Love is eternal and infinite. We are voting on our would-be lover's story. We are voting on the story they are writing for their lives. If their story matches our story or our desires, we have a MATCH.

If the story isn't appealing to us we say no to the story and subsequently the storyteller. My writer friend writes some great stories but the part he wrote for me this time was lousy; so I turn down the role. In doing so, I remembered a valuable lesson:

LOVE can't be created or destroyed it simply IS and it can change form. Accept LOVE and change it into whatever you desire, whatever you choose but most of all, transform it into one of the greatest LOVE stories ever told.